Grief and Bereavement
Grief is our natural and normal response to loss, and it can affect every part of our life. It is an incredibly powerful emotion, which is often accompanied by feelings of sadness, anger, anxiety, disbelief, panic, relief or even numbness.
Grief can affect our thinking and the thought of life without the person who died becomes unbearable and intolerable; to the extent that we may wish we were with the person who died. . This does not usually mean that we will take active steps to end life, but can simply be an expression of our pain and sadness.
Individuals grieve in different ways and there is no right or wrong way to grieve. The length and intensity of your grief will be unique to you.
At discover counselling, we will assist you with coming to terms with your loss, and help you find a way to find meaning in life again. Remember, it is normal to experience these emotions as part of grief, and that it is ok to reach out for help.
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Sometimes life can have its ups and downs and we may feel sad from time to time; but if emptiness and despair have taken hold of your life and won’t go away, you may have depression. Depression makes it hard to function and enjoy life like you once did. Just getting through the day can be overwhelming, but no matter how hopeless you feel, you can get better.
If you identify with the following signs or symptoms, and they just won’t go away, you may be suffering from clinical depression:
Some common signs of depression include:
A lack of interest in activities that you once enjoyed
Sleeplessness or sleeping too much
A constant feeling of tiredness and lack of energy; getting through the day feels overwhelming
Feelings of hopelessness and helpnessness
Lack of concentration
Persistent feelings of sadness and anxiety
Feelings of worthlessness and a lack of zest for life
Uncontrollable emotions; tearfulness and irritability
Loss of appetite or overeating
Recurring thoughts of death and suicide (seek help immediately if this is the case)
If left untreated, depression can lead to chronic illness
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At Discovery Counselling, we believe that no problem is too big or too small. No matter what you are going through, we are here to help you navigate each part of your journey so that you can live your life to its full potential.
Problems can occur at any stage in a marriage relationship. It is normal to find it difficult to get along with your spouse due to differences in values or even deeper problems with the way you relate to each other. You might find that you and your partner have different opinions on things like finances, how to raise your children and even how to deal with the wider extended family.
As a result of these conflicts you might find your marriage in some of the following situtations:
Your partner is emotionally distant and unapproachable
You start to feel that your partner does not love you or care about you anymore
You start to feel differently about your partner and the spark that you once had for him is no longer there
You or your partner are engaged in an extra marital affair
Communication in your marriage becomes negative in a way that leaves you feeling depressed, insecure, disregarded or wanting to withdraw from the conversation
You are considering separation of divorce
Whatever the situtation is, our team of experienced counsellors with work with you and your partner, and give you tools to improve communication in your relationship.
This will help you gain a greater understanding of each other’s needs and concerns and set your relationship on the path to recovery.
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A family is the most important unit of the society. How we treat our family members or how we are treated by other family members has a huge impact on how we relate with other people in the society and at work.
Emotional development in children is highly influenced by the relationship dynamics that exist at home. It is important to cultivate a positive environment at home so that your children grow up to have the maturity that is necessary to cope with the challenges of normal day to day life. Sometimes however, conflicts may exist within the family that make it difficult for the home to have such a positive environment.
Conflicts within the home are normal, because people have different personalities, even though they may belong to the same family. Sometimes the conflicts may get so out of hand that it becomes necessary to resolve them in a different environment, where the family members feel safe to express their views and opinions, without fear of judgement.
At discovery counselling, we offer a safe environment for families to come and openly discuss their issues, with the aim of resolving them in the best interest of the family unit.
Remember, there are no perfect families as there are no perfect individuals.
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Addictions come in many forms, some of the common ones include alcohol, drugs, cigarettes and gambling, while the less common ones might include work, the internet, television, and engaging in negative behaviour. For some of us, it is difficult to identify leave alone admit that we have a problem. The following are common signs and symptoms of addiction:
You find that you have started to neglect your duties at home and at work
You have uncontrollable cravings for the substance and you are unable to control your consumption even with the knowledge that it is not good for you
You find yourself needing increasing doses of the substance to achieve the same effect
You feel that you need to consume the substance to deal with your problems
When you haven’t taken the substance, you experience mood swings, bad focus and feelings of depression and unhappiness (withdrawal symptoms)
You are unable to cope with everyday life without the substance
No matter what you are going through, today you can make a different choice, and start to change your life in a positively
Our counsellors aim to uncover the cause of your addiction and discover the trigger points for your addictive behaviour. They then take the necessary steps in helping you control your addiction so that it does not control you. This includes breaking addictive patterns, learning coping strategies to manage day to day pressures, and changing negative thinking patterns.
The journey to recovery is not easy, but we are with you all the way
Stress and Anxiety
Stress can come from an event or thought that makes you feel frustrated, angry or nervous. Stress can occur as a result of work pressures, relationship pressures, or as a consequence of life events such as divorce, raising a family or coping with a debilitating illness.
Anxiety is a feeling of fear, unease and worry. Unlike stress which is usually linked to a cause or event, the source of anxiety is often unknown.
In small doses, stress can help you be productive and get things done, however chronic long term stress can have serious and adverse effects on our mind and body.
If you are feeling overwhelmed or anxious about the level of stress in your life it's important to seek help.
At Discovery Counselling our qualified counsellors are experienced in helping people to overcome and manage the impact of stress and stressful situations in their lives.We will explore the situations and events that trigger your stress, help you to adopt effective coping strategies, and help you to restore a workable life balance.
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